Who Should Give a Speech at a Wedding?

Wedding speeches can be one of the most memorable parts of your big day—equal parts heartwarming, hilarious, and tear-jerking. But with so many people involved in your celebration, it can be tough to figure out exactly who should grab the mic (and when).

Whether you’re planning a formal sit-down dinner or a laid-back backyard celebration, here’s a breakdown of who traditionally gives a speech at a wedding—and how to tailor that list to fit your vibe.

The Traditional Wedding Speech Lineup

If you’re following a classic wedding format, these are the people who typically give a toast or speech:

1. The Best Man

The best man’s speech is often a mix of heartfelt sentiment and playful storytelling. Traditionally, this speech includes:

• A few words about the groom

• A funny or meaningful memory

• A warm welcome to the bride or partner

• A toast to the couple

2. The Maid or Matron of Honor

Just like the best man, the maid or matron of honor usually delivers a speech about the bride or partner. Expect stories from childhood, funny moments, and an expression of love and support for the couple’s future together.

3. The Parents (Usually of the Couple)

Often, one or both sets of parents will give a speech or toast—usually during the rehearsal dinner or early in the reception. This may include:

• A welcome to guests

• Reflections on the couple’s relationship

• Gratitude for everyone in attendance

Pro tip: If both sets of parents are divorced or remarried, coordinate speeches in advance to ensure everyone feels comfortable and included.

Optional (But Meaningful!) Speech Givers

You can absolutely personalize your speech lineup. Here are a few others you might consider including:

4. The Couple Themselves

While not always expected, many couples choose to give a brief thank-you speech. This is a great way to:

• Acknowledge your guests

• Thank your vendors and wedding party

• Express gratitude for love and support

It doesn’t have to be long—just a heartfelt thank you can go a long way.

5. Siblings

If your siblings aren’t in your wedding party but are close to you, inviting them to speak is a sweet way to include them in the celebration.

6. Officiant or Family Friend

Sometimes a close family friend or the officiant will share a short reflection or blessing, especially if the ceremony was more formal and they didn’t get to speak much during it.

7. Anyone You Feel Should Speak

Throw tradition out the window if you want to! Some couples invite:

• Grandparents to share words of wisdom

• A child or teen relative to do a cute or meaningful reading

• Both partners to write a joint speech and give it together

Your day, your call.

When Do Wedding Speeches Happen?

Speeches typically happen during the reception, often between dinner courses or after dinner is served. Here’s a general flow:

1. Welcome toast by the couple or a parent

2. Maid/Matron of Honor speech

3. Best Man speech

4. Additional toasts or open mic (if desired)

At the rehearsal dinner, this is where more informal and extended speeches usually happen. Anyone can speak—siblings, cousins, college friends. It’s a great opportunity for people who may not speak at the reception to share their love.

Tips for a Successful Speech Lineup

• Keep it concise. Speeches are most impactful when they’re 3–5 minutes long.

• Limit the number. 3–4 speakers at the reception is plenty—save others for the rehearsal dinner or after-party.

• Coordinate in advance. Let everyone know they’re speaking and give them a rough timeline.

• Have a mic ready. Your DJ or band should be equipped with a mic and speaker system so everyone can hear.

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